The flag at the center of a dispute is being flown at three places around town and inside one city building. But the family of a fallen soldier says there's one important place where the flag is missing
"It needs to be at the memorial. That's where we as family and we as the public and civilians go to cherish our fallen to reflect on the men that gave their lives," said Amy Moore. She and husband Patrick are asking Bordentown officials and the Veterans Memorial Committee to fly a special flag on the site of its Veterans Memorial.
"It breaks my heart that people out there don't want to honor our soldiers and airmen and our navy men who have died for us," said Amy. Their son's name, Army Specialist Benjamin Moore, is etched on the memorial. He was just 23 years old when he was killed in Afghanistan in 2011.
"There's not a minute that goes by that we don't think about him. Each and every day is like a memorial day for us," said Patrick. The Honor and Remember flag was created by a Virginia man whose son was killed in Iraq in 2005. The Moore family says it was adopted in New Jersey as an official flag. But the Veterans Memorial Committee is refusing to fly it at the memorial site which that they built without city money.
"What we found is the flag was not voted out of judiciary committee in 2008. It's not a national flag although it's recognized by the state of New Jersey. The flag has a registered trademark on it and on the web site (honorandremember.org) there's a disclaimer on the flag referring to the trademark which tells me somebody's got a proprietary interest in the flag," said John Wehrman who is retired military and serves on the committee.
City Mayor Joseph Malone says he doesn't want to intervene and override the committee, some of whom are veterans.
"There would be no sense in having any committees or anybody involved if we as elected officials dictate or take over every aspect of the town. We need to have committees that are willing to serve the community and use their best judgement," said Mayor Malone.
The Moore family says it's a hurtful battle but they won't give up.
"It's a fight worth fighting," said Amy.