Dealing with family dynamics can be difficult and no one wants to end up in a brawl. So how involved should you get in your siblings' or even friends' relationships?
Pastor and relationship coach Derek Triplett explained the important boundaries you need to set in relationships. He said it is important to build both bridges and fences when it comes to family.
Triplett said when people get married, it is important to have the tough conversation about boundaries with their family. They need to know the couple's expectations because sometimes family does not understand a marital relationship is the primary relationship.
At the same time, family is not going anywhere. Spouse needs to respect their in-laws family, just like the family has to honor their son- or daughter-in-law.
Triplett said every family is going to have conflict. But when a couple fights with their family, they face a choice: exacerbate the problem or quell the conflict? He said it is important, whether you are the family or the couple, to be the person in the tug-of-war who drops the rope. That way, a series of minor issues do not become a destructive disagreement.
Finally, Triplett said if you and your family need help, get outside help sooner rather than later. That way those minor issues are addressed early on and do not escalate into larger areas of conflict.