ORLANDO, Fla. (WOFL FOX 35 ORLANDO) -
To encourage kids to do chores around the house, half of parents admit to bribing their kids with money. But is that really effective parenting?
Dr. Stacey Dunn joined the FOX 35 team to talk more.
Giving your daughter a few extra dollars because she washed the car is not bribery. It’s rewarding good behavior.
Bribery is going through the grocery store and saying, “If you calm down, I will buy you a candy bar.”
You’re handing over all the control to the child. Then it becomes, “You want me to behave well? Pay up!”
That’s not what we want. Allowances are a good concept. We want to teach our children the value of a dollar from a young age and how to manage their money. Giving them an allowance that is tied to their active productivity in the household is important. But we do not want to reward every single action with money.
That’s because in life, we’re not rewarded every single time we do something positive. We want to be able to find our clothes; we want to be able to have friends over. Don’t set it up like a slot machine.
Children really like praise. I like the idea of chore lists. You don’t want to get into narrowing it down for a financial reward and cost for everything.
Using money as a bribe says, “If you stop doing this negative behavior I’ll give you this, if you do this positive thing we will give you that.”
Focus more on an allowance and encouraging values.